Wedding

First blog, I would like to start with our wedding!
So many good and bad things involved in planning a wedding.
I was excited to plan our wedding, UNTIL i realized what I was working with, or I should say WHO!

There were 2 good friends I would have loved to be in my wedding party with me, but at the time it didnt look like one would even be in the country at the time and the other was a lil MIA at the time, still is, sorta.

I always heard terrible stories of good friends becoming your most hated enemy when planning a wedding and always wondered how that happens. Now I know first hand, and that is one part of planning my wedding i do NOT miss!

There were 4. One was so flimsy in the wind I didnt know whether she was coming or going, I even contemplated not having her at the wedding at ALL since the last year she was too busy to do ANYTHING, not a text even which we all know takes less than 5 seconds.

One became GODZILLA MOH.

Another was never around and waited till everything was done to ask "do you need me to help with anything".... ya.. NO THANKS ITS DONE NOW!

And the 4th, the last. The loveliest of them all... was AMAZING and helped me a LOT with EVERYTHING. Was so accomodating and helpful and I will forever be grateful for all that she did for me :)

So 1 out of 4 aint bad? Ya it is pretty bad.

The Stag and Doe was a disaster since no one was too happy to do anything, we did all of the work and after all the money we spent, we made just enough to cover the cost of the wedding cake! NOT COOL! And the week before one of the wedding party members told me how much they thought it would be a disaster.... as if I needed to hear that everyday leading up to it. From past experiences, stag and does are a party where the Bride and Groom to be enjoy themselves, money is made, fun is had. NOT THIS ONE! Again, something I will not miss.

FF to the Bachelorette Party which was Fri Aug 14th.
One of my MOH's asked me in May, would you prefer to go out for your bachelorette or would you prefer to stay in, have a lingerie party at my house?

I said the lingerie party would be fun, but could we go out afterwards? I really want to go out with the girls for one nite!

Nothing else was said about this. I find out that there is a lingerie party planned. Thats it tho no going out what so ever.

I ask her about this. She tells me she doesnt have money to go out nor does she want to go out anywhere with some of the other girls. Which is completely selfish and just plain rude. You dont have to like everyone, and Im 100% sur that ONE nite out will not kill you, also not sure why it would cost you a lot of money?

Anyhoo, as the day got closer I knew we were not going out or doing anything, I wasnt looking forward to it at all. Also wondering why this ONE out of 4 girls is the one leading all the plans and no one else has a say? Since a few of them had come up to me to ask me what I wanted to do and I said go out have some drinks, some dancing, some FUN! I dont think thats too much to ask.

The nite comes, we are at her house.....everyone is being told to sit down so Holly can open her lingerie gifts. And Holly is being told sit down to everyone will be quiet so you can open your gifts. ummm OK HITLER

Good thing I had a few drinks before I arrived is all I have to say! After this there is a ring at the doorbell and they tell me to come to the door but not to look. At this point I thought Dear Lord what is it? Are we going to sew scarves now?
I open the door and who is it? MY FIANCEE.....oh hi what are you doing at my girl party?!?! and I use the word PARTY loosely.

On the street there is a limo and he tells me HE got it for us since he knew I wanted to go out and he knew no one was planning anything for me. WOW. WOW.

So the feeling of OH EM GEEEEEE he did this thats so sweet was mixed with WOW no one could be bothered to do this for me........ even in the MONTHS and MONTHS there were to plan something.......... HE does this for ALL OF US......I still get a sick feeling in my stomache when I think about that nite. Was it fun? YES it was, sorta, kinda, considering, the comments, the dirty looks and the Holly what are you doing? Holly where are you going? ALL NITE which led me to keep escaping so I didnt have to be babysat all nite.

ONE NITE.....guess I wasnt worth it to plan something fun? Not sure why, but I dont forget these things either.

I will get onto the Wedding Day which was much more memorable for me in the next blog!